It is to be expected that some people will be angry when they’re approached by their spouse who is asking for a divorce. Even if you feel that your relationship is obviously over, your spouse may not be ready to divorce.
That being said, you do have a right to divorce even if they don’t want to. They may argue, fight and try to debate the divorce, but you can still divorce regardless of what they want.
To make things easier on yourself, there are a few things you can do if you’re divorcing someone who is angered by what’s happening.
- Get your attorney involved from the start
To start with, it’s smart to get your attorney involved and to make sure they see what’s happening. If your spouse is angry and threatening, they can help you get a restraining order. If they’re being rude and influencing the way your child feels about you, you may be able to ask for temporary custody until the court can look at your case.
- Try to calm the waters
Of course, you can try to calm down your spouse, too. Explain that you understand that they are hurt but that you’d like to work together to resolve your disputes and end your marriage on an amicable note if possible. Ask if they would be open to mediation or if there is something you can do to make this easier for them. They may want to commit to couples therapy or to have you consider marriage counseling. It may not be a bad idea, but be prepared to listen and explain why you will or won’t do what they’re asking.
- Be prepared for court
If your spouse is against the marriage, you should be prepared to go to court. They may make it difficult to settle before trial, so you will need to build up your case to help you get what you need when the judge makes their decision on your case.
It can be hard to divorce an angry spouse, but it is possible. Get support, and know that you will get through this.